Coaching

4 Types of Relationship Coaching

September 3, 2021

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One of the areas I coach in is Relationship Coaching.  When most people hear the word “relationship” they automatically assume it has to do with a couple, however, when I use the term “relationship”, I don’t just mean coaching couples, I coach any type of relationship, as long as both parties are willing to put the work in. In this post, I want to talk about the 4 most common types of relationships we have, a few common problems that can arise, and how coaching can help, not only your relationship but also you as an individual.

The first type of relationship, is the obvious one, couples. In this type of relationship, two people have chosen to come together, spend their lives together, share experiences, good times and bad. Some take it a step further and get married, while others don’t feel the need to take that route, either is ok, the main thing is that you are both in agreement not only on whether or not you want to be together but also in how much you are committed to one another. The most common things I have had come up with in these types of relationships are lack of communication, jealousy, control, and manipulation. Depending on the context these can also be considered very toxic, and depending on how bad they are can even lead to abuse.  

The second is the relationships we have with our family, your mother/father, sister/brother, cousin, etc…These are relationships you form because you were born into your family, or maybe you were adopted into your family, either way, your physical self did not have a say in whom you call mom or dad, brother or sister, etc. The decision was made before you even had a physical body for most. So sometimes we just don’t get along with them, hell, sometimes we don’t even like them. The most common issues I have come across in this type of relationship are feeling like you are a huge disappointment and that you do everything wrong, not living up to their expectations or living up to their expectations but that makes you unhappy. Feeling like you don’t matter, being taken advantage of, or having to be the one that they all rely on because otherwise, they won’t help themselves. Abuse is also an issue here, but because abuse can also cause people to have PTSD, I am leaving it out because that is something that should be dealt with by a therapist or someone else qualified to work with you on that. 

Next, we have our relationships with our friends. These are people that we have decided are cool enough to hang out with, and as time goes by and you develop bonds and such, over time you may even be lucky enough to consider your friend, family. This is not a luxury everyone can afford, so if you do have a friend you consider family, then you have found a diamond in the rough. The thing is though, not every friendship is solid like that diamond. Sometimes friends don’t know how to be a friend. The most common issues I have heard in this department are, jealousy (which is different from couple jealousy), lack of communication, sabotage, resentment, feeling like a burden to the point where you can’t talk to your friend about something bothering you.

Finally, we have the last one, boss’ and coworkers. These are people you don’t choose to spend your time with either, but you need money, so you gotta make nice, no matter how irritating they can be. Sometimes you get lucky and find a good friend that can help get you through the workday, but sometimes you don’t and it makes going to work feel like more than your average chore. The common issues I see here, are boss’ taking advantage of employees, not getting proper recognition, being held back from promotions, office gossip, and employees that try to trash you so they can get ahead. 

All of these relationships have one thing in common, YOU. If you are having difficulty in one of these areas, chances are you have difficulty in all of them, because a lot of the time the reason we have these issues is because of our lack of confidence in ourselves, or the relationship. When you work with me, whether you’re coming to me on your own or with your spouse/family/friend. I help you get to the bottom of the issues so that we can determine what the real problem is, and then I help you develop an action plan to solve it, as long as both of you are on the same page. If you’re not then I help you build the confidence you need to move on from the situation if that is what you choose. 
So don’t be shy, book a consultation with me by emailing me at chaosandthecrow@gmail.com It’s Free!  

Xo,
Chaos

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